The root cause of Chinese society can be traced back to one word - laziness. Lazy, so the malaise, should do things can not take a little courage to do; Lazy, so sloppy, should not do things can not take a little courage to decide not to do; Lazy, so on all things to the lowest resistance to the path to go, take advantage of things, and gradually go to the fall of personality.
First, be open-minded. Second, be careful only. Third, be generous. 4. Suffer losses. 5. Reticence. Six, do not say people. Seven, do not write the past. 8. Don't cover your own faults. Hear slander without arguing. 10. Don't be angry.
If you can't see the good in others, others are not necessarily bad,
But you can't be, because there's nothing good inside of you.
You wish others well, they may not be good,
But you will be, because you have something good in you.
Man is good, although the blessing has not arrived, the disaster has been far away;
Man is evil, although the disaster has not come, the blessing has been far away.
-- Kazuo Inamori
He wants to be brave and kind above all, but he also wants, even more than he wants, to be loved.
-- Tender is the Night by Scott Fitzgerald
If you want to relieve anxiety, you need to start focusing on what you really want, and that means having a goal.
- Carl Vernon, "How I Deal With Anxiety"
Those who have a gentle temper are blessed and live happily. All those who have a violent temper, their blessings are shallow, and their lives are painful. People in this life all the blessings, are hidden in their temper. Don't let your temper get in the way of your blessings. Don't forget, a thought of hatred, a million miasma door open.
Those who know themselves do not blame others, and those who know their destiny do not blame heaven; Those who complain about people are poor, and those who complain about heaven have no ambition.
-- Xunzi · Honor and Disgrace
The best state is that you are not afraid to offend anyone, and you are not above pleasing anyone. Just be yourself. Don't think it's hard. Whether you're a friend or a lover, it's usually possible to do this with ease if you let go of what you want from each other.
"I hardly ever talk to my mother about sad things. She rarely helps. She just can't sleep." There is no real empathy, but mom does, and your pain will be magnified on her many times.