At such times, what you should do is not to be stingy with compliments and praise the other person.
The other person will not say anything to your face, but he may hold a grudge against you in his heart.
People with high EQ know how to speak according to the situation and know when to say what is appropriate.
The other, like the soldier in the story, is eager to show his wounds and pain over and over again in front of others, seeking comfort and sympathy, and wallow in self-pity.
Just like a scar, do not touch, wipe the medicine well, will eventually scab over time, drop, even if it can not be restored as before, at least it will not bring deep pain.
Similarly, if a person is around you, but always speaking malicious language, then under his influence, your mood and mentality will become worse and worse.
There are always people like the latter around us, they like to tell their pain and complain about everything in life.
Such people are often mean, for the good fortune of others, they always can not see the past, and even often speak ill words and speculate maliciously.